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Keep It Clean- by ashes_to_roses

Public Notice To the Individual I've Just Removed from My Friends List:

(whom I won't name because I am not a troll)

I have a friends list that is quite diverse, both geographically and politically. Among my friends here, I count libertarians, conservatives, monarchists, liberals, and leftists from Europe, Asia, North America, and Australasia. I disagree with many of these people; sometimes, I even violently disagree. But in the (coming up on) five years that I've been on Live Journal, I've only had occasion to remove a few people from my friends list for crossing my mental line. You have just joined their ranks.

I am heartbroken that it has come to this. I originally friended you because you and I share a rather esoteric interest that I don't really get to discuss with anyone else. Indeed, I hope that we can continue to share said interest on the communities devoted to the subject. But it has become increasingly apparent that you have a caste of mind that I find particularly intolerable.

The warning signs appeared early. When the lead writer for a certain fandom we share casually expressed the belief that his central character is straight, your reaction was out of all proportion to the situation. You accused him of homophobia and of consciously starting an anti-slash propaganda campaign merely because he expressed an opinion to which he is perfectly entitled. I did not defriend you then, though, because I tend to make allowances for fannish passion - and eventually, you did dial it back. I also bit my tongue when you, to my mind, perpetuated half-truths about American history because I could understand how a sincere person might, upon reading certain texts, come to your conclusions. And I let it pass when you made certain extremely prejudicial and inaccurate remarks about the members and media of your political opposition because I understand political passion, too.

You crossed my mental line, however, when you made it clear that you embrace conspiracy theories that, in order to be tenable, require a large number of people to be either groveling, terrified dupes, or greedy and unprincipled murderers. One can disagree with current American foreign policy without going there. That you have, in fact, gone there makes you, quite frankly, rather toxic in my eyes. And I don't want toxic people on my friends list. I don't want people on my friends list who are that unbelievably arrogant. I don't want people on my friends list who believe they know better than everyone else. Frankly, I'm amazed someone who has decades on me would actually adopt a world view so callow and self-congratulating.

At this point, you can consider our relationship beyond special interest communities officially terminated. By all means, feel free to defriend me in return.

hobsonphile

PS: And for everyone else - my rules are quite simple: 1) no conspiracy theories and 2) no wishing your opponents dead. Consider this defriending amnesty day if you cannot follow these guidelines.

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